Thursday 30 May 2013

Travel Safety Tips

Well probably you have received loads of advice before about being safe whilst travelling, but maybe you still somehow managed to get mugged on that last trip to Paris/Bali/Peru/wherever. You may have heard it was the safest place in the world with low crime rates and how on earth did you still manage to get mugged?! I've travelled in over 30 countries and I've only been mugged once overseas in Berlin - I left a bag of dirty clothes in a hostel locker unlocked assuming no one would be desperate enough to want my dirty traveller clothes! Well below is a list of what seems to work from me - a mix of my own ideas, others and common knowledge. I hope it will help you stay out of trouble for your next trip.

1. Blend In. I almost cried when my parents got mugged in London and at the time my dad was wearing a bright yellow Australia jumper. Why dad, why?!! It may be hard to blend in when you are a blond in Africa, but it doesn't mean you should give up completely and attract attention to yourself. My tips for blending in are - match the colour scheme (if you see lots of black coats wear black, if you see lots of colour wear colour), don't be too noisy and attract attention to that fact you are speaking a foreign language, buy some cheap local clothing and donate it after your trip (hiking boots and backpacks are a giveaway so try to keep your tourist outfit for hiking trips not city site seeing if everyone is well dressed where you are and you are the only person in miles wearing hiking pants and boots).

2. Trust No One. Molder and Scully were wise in saying this. Never ever leave your bag with someone else unless (a) it has no valuables in it and (b) you have warned the person you will unfriend them from facebook if they take their eyes off your bag for a second. A second is all it takes to get mugged.
The oldest scammer trick in the book is "Oh you're from Melbourne, I have an uncle who lives there" then they pretend to help you before coaxing you into a shop you don't want to visit and even forcing you to buy goods you don't want. These can be interesting experiences the first few times, but after a while it's tiresome so I recommend not befriending people who approach you on the street like this.

3. Dine in Local Restaurants If a restaurant is full of tourists then it will be a target for thieves. Plus local restaurants are usually cheaper and more authentic - don't be fooled into thinking being with other tourists makes you safer, not from pick pockets.

4. Keep your valuables on you. You know all about the pouches you can buy. Keep them hidden or keep the zips in site and check them regularly - I'm paranoid about this.

5. If you're alone, don't flash your camera about too much. If there's two of you you can keep an eye on each other, but alone and attracting attention can attract pick pockets, scammers, etc. Just pull out the camera when you are about to take a picture if possible.

6. Be adventurous, but be intuitive. If your gut instinct tells you an ally way is dangerous then most likely it is. Make good judgements whilst your wandering. I check my access routes for a street. I avoid walking next to cars that are parked with people inside them in case they decide to jump out and grab you. I make sure no one is following me when I leave a bank. Listen to locals - in some situations locals have even warned me not to go somewhere, because they thought I'd get mugged.

7. Don't do exactly the same thing every day. Predators watch your habits. If someone observes you dining alone in the same restaurant at the same time every day then you are looking for trouble. I learnt this hearing about crocodile attacks in north Australia - crocodiles can watch you for months, even years, swimming in the same water hole until they know your habits to well and they know the perfect moment to strike. My boyfriend's work van in Lima took the same route every morning collecting the employees until it had been doing this for around 8 months and at a traffic light just after everyone left the bus besides the driver, the bus got ambushed and stolen within seconds.

8. Become Taxi Wise. Not everyone comes from a place where taxis are dangerous, some of us come from places where taxis are very safe or simply expensive so we seldom use them. Understand that taxis are one of your biggest safety risks in many countries. I recommend asking locals for advice about their local taxis. For example, in Lima there are more illegal taxis then legal ones, so if you are transiting between the airport with all your luggage it is recommended to only take a booked legal taxi to avoid being the victim of an armed robbery, etc. In other places, it's simply about taxi-scammers who don't turn on their meters of pretend it's broken - you need to develop an instinct for when this will happen or in many places you can agree on the fair before you hop in the taxi. In South America sometimes people judge that if a taxi has a Christian cross hanging from their rear-view mirror then they are less likely to rob you because of their values - but obviously this is prejudice and won't always be the case.
Maybe this is more about saving money then safety - but another good trick to avoid scammer taxis is not to catch the taxis that fester around train stations, bus stations etc. Walk 20 metres to the main road outside the entrance and you are likely to avoid many annoyances mentioned above to do with taxis because these scammers love to target tourists.

The Shisha Queen


TO MARK THE IMPENDING ARRIVAL OF "THE CHAMELEON AND THE CUCKOO CLOCK" HERE IS A TRAVEL POEM FOR YOU FROM THE BOOK (Illustration and poem by Miranda K.A. Welch © 2013)

She’s on holiday in Egypt
No more racing around for a little while
Her parents and she are touring in a group of Aussies She sees date palms, donkeys and carts
Rides camels
Drinks mint tea and smokes strawberry
shisha
She says outlandish things
She makes everybody laugh
She was offered a thousand camels for a dowry
She’s the Shisha Queen
She’s happy sitting in the hot summer air
She likes the feel of her kaftan and scarf
Loosely keeping her covered from prying eyes
She loves the
felukas in Aswan
She wants to swim in the Nile again
She’s looking out at the Alexandrian shoreline
It’s half past nine
And the breeze is fine
Out on the balcony
They’re smoking and laughing
The locals are out
They’re sober but they love their own company
Men arm in arm as comrades
Not gays
She’s staring into the twinkling lights
Ebbing off into the horizon
It would be nice to stay for a while
Chill out in a Bedouin tent on soft cushions
She could marry him and stay here
Live in a kaleidoscopic dreamland for a bit
What would happen when she wanted to go home? Would they all just stare?
But what would the local women say?
Would she be lonely in this world of crazy cars and ancient tombs?

Would she really forget forever her home? Getting further and further away . . .
All she can see is what’s around her Welcoming, candid faces

Bright colours
She could own a donkey,
Teach English in Cairo
But
The smog would burn her lungs
The sun would shrivel her up into a premature prune Better not stay
Will come back another day 


A new beginning

Ganesh the god of new beginnings; a funny looking elephant headed man is who we all worship when the romantic first few days somewhere new have faded away giving way to signs of culture shock and alienation. And yet we do it again and again like it is a total addiction that we can only succumb to. This is the start of a new beginning for me that I wish to share with you over the next twelve months. But it is also simply another dot in an already old dot-to-dot drawing, so I hope too to share my wisdom about moving, change and transition. The other journey is a journey to unleash my creativity that has been locked up most of the time over the last few years. 2013 is a year of creative liberation so come along with me and enjoy!

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Which type of woman of the road are you?



Who am I speaking to?

I am speaking to you right now and you could be any type of woman of the road. We can be several different types even:-

- the eternal traveller
- the expat
- the first time away from home for studies girl in a far away city
- the "I can't seem to get rid of my itch to move again" girl
- the "I can't seem to fall in love with someone from my own country let alone own town" girl
- the "Citizen of the World" girl who hasn't any nationalist pride, but feels an affinity with everyone


Here I hope to speak to you of your own unique challenges, wishes and questions day to day, month to month, year to year. You need a voice and someone who knows what you are going through. Please give me feedback as I go along and hopefully we will discover we are not alone and some of our issues are universal to the Woman of the Road.


Face Care in Tropical Climates


Face care and travel? What? Hey, this is a blog for ladies so of course face care is relevant!
Women who have recently moved to Tropical climates will find it a shock when their perfect skin is suddenly riddled with blemishes they can’t get rid of. Their favourite skin care products suddenly become partly to blame, much to their dismay.
I grew up in the Tropics and as a teenager had no one to give me good advice on skin care so I used to wash my face incessantly with Sapoderm soap thinking that removing the oil was a good idea – these were the days before the internet so I had no idea who to turn to.
I moved back home a year ago and now finally, at 27 years of age, I think I have become an expert at managing combination skin in tropical weather.
Here is my weekly skin care regime for humid climates:
Exfoliate once or twice per week with a mini face loofa and any gentle exfoliating scrub. Being a tomboy, I only learnt about exfoliation when I was 25! A gay guy working in the Body Shop gave me a lecture for being so clueless! I was so embarrassed, but now I am so grateful he made me change my terrible ways! Exfoliation is your best friend. I like to use the loofa with antibacterial Sapoderm soap, because then you’re removing the dead skin and deep cleansing at the same time.

Do your own facemask once a week. Or even do a few different masks on the same day. Different masks do different things, so experiment a bit. Masks are not only good for your face, but they’re a nice way to pamper yourself, which is extremely important for feeling relaxed and happy about yourself wherever you are in the world. Even on the move you can do a quick face pack.

Mornings:
·      Rinse my skin with a deep cleanser such as Clinique foam cleanser or Liquid facial soap oily skin formula to really clear your pores. Alternatively, cleansing oils also do the same thing and are very effective. Try Clarin’s Total Cleansing Oil. If you told me oil was good to put on your face when I was 13 I would never have believed you, but these products are amazing at balancing the moisture in your skin so your skin stops producing the excess oil that produces blemishes.
·      Straight after, rinse your face with a gentle cleansing milk like Yoghurt of Bulgaria’s. (This step probably isn’t necessary if you used the cleansing oil.)  
·      Dry your skin.
·      With a cotton pad apply Bulgarian pure rosewater as a toner. If you can get hold of this stuff or something similar do it! It is total heaven – it makes your skin feel magic, it smells lovely and is totally natural. It is the gentlest toner and gentle is better because it doesn’t agitate your skin to produce more oils. (The key is to use a toner that is alcohol free.)
·      Apply a very small amount of a good quality moisturiser and eye cream and rub in well.
Afternoons:
·      Give your face a quick rinse with the cleansing milk when you get home just to remove any oil or dirt.

Evenings:
·      Repeat your morning program, but apply night moisturiser instead of your spf day time brand.

Some other tips I have both for the tropics and elsewhere:
·      Carry around with you every where you go the Body Shop’s handy little Blotting Tissues! These things are one of my best kept secrets, especially as someone with combination skin – when ever there is excess sebum on my face i.e. I start looking shiny, I take out a blotting tissue and dab off the excess oil. It stops me from touching my face, which is one of the worst things you can do for oily, pimply, combination skin.
·      Mix your moisturiser and your foundation together before applying your foundation to get a more natural look – read this somewhere and it really gives a nicer finish.
·      Don’t apply makeup everyday if you can avoid it, especially foundation. Your skin is much happier if you let if breath more often.
·      DO wear spf (sunscreen) moisturiser and/or foundations every day of your life. Look after your kids’ too and make sure you set an example and make the whole family wear hats, sunscreen and sunglasses everyday in the sun. Maybe you can’t see the rewards now, but in a few years time you will start to notice the different signs of aging between you and your peers. My parents were extremely strict on us growing up in the tropics and now that I’m 27 people who meet me for the first time often think I am only 21 because I look so young. Maybe occasionally I feel embarrassed if I’m the only one on the beach wearing a wide brimmed hat and a long shirt, but aging gracefully is the biggest reward. Especially pay attention to your face, neck, chest and shoulders as they are the most visible places for sun damage. If avoiding skin cancer won’t motivate you, hopefully the idea of being beautiful for longer will when you think about sun care. 

Have Patience and Make a Pyramid


This blog letter is for those still on the road to living overseas, to live their dream job, etc. Whatever is your multinational goal, understand that in the real world things don’t happen over night “but they will happen”. It has nothing to do with luck throwing dice, but everything to do with planning, preparation and most of all patience and perseverance. I recently saw a book exists all about Will Power, well yes, here will power is also important when your patience is wearing thin.

The best way to visualise it is like a pyramid.
Identify what is your ultimate goal and then break it down into the tangible steps you need to follow to get there. I will give you my own personal example, which was the ultimate goal to be able to work overseas as an engineer in a non-English speaking country.



 As you can see I had this dream of mine a very long time ago and to get it to fruition has been a long journey, but I am now in a position to work anywhere I like (theoretically maybe not in reality!).
Not everyone’s pyramid is so long and complex. You may only be looking for a 6 month experience in London and are quite happy to work in a bar and not use your qualifications. Each to their own. But if you are feeling more ambitious then realise there is never too much planning to do to make something turn out the way you wish it.
Some other tips on this topic include:
·      Decide what you want to do and work backwards to find out how you can get there. Look at position descriptions for jobs you are interested in and find out what types of experience and qualifications companies are looking for. Many overseas engineering positions require previous work experience overseas, even for quite junior positions! I worked out for me the only way to get this work experience was to do a Master’s internship although many universities allow overseas undergraduate work experience placements if you are lucky enough to score one. Find out what are your university’s policies early.
·      If you want to study overseas get good grades. Find out your university policies before it is too late to greatly increase your grade point average. 

Embrace Your Evolutionary Travel Bug


Have you heard it said before? “When are you going to settle down?” ”Where will you end up living?” Maybe it is only your own voice inside your head pestering you. You’ve moved cities three times in four years, moved house so many times and had that many housemates that you feel like you should give lectures (or write blogs) to people about moving. But when is it going stop? Shouldn’t you be thinking about where you are going to build your nest and start think about those scary grown-up words that even 27 y.o.s dread; commitment, family, babies… BABIES argh!!!!
But who says you have to stop moving around? Who said that kids are better off living their whole childhoods in one place? Who said you can’t raise a perfectly well-balanced and functional family on the go? Some of the most interesting and well-balanced people I know were raised in expat households.
There are no rules about how to live your life. You only have one and it is up to you what path you chose to take. If you believe something can happen then it will. If you commit yourself to maintaining your gypsy lifestyle and believe you can still give your future family a safe and nurturing home environment then you can. The power lies within you to make your dreams a reality. So stop feeling guilty about your travel itch.

As far as I’m concerned it is part of our natural evolutionary nature to survive. Mankind has been migrating around the planet for a millennia in order to survive so think of it as just having a stronger than average survival instinct! I challenge you to saying this to the next person who tells you you need to start settling down and I’d be curious to hear their response.  


Local or Expat Friends?


I’ve seen people travelling or living abroad who are obsessed with the idea of only having local friends and ignoring anyone from their own species because it taints their “full immersion”. This indeed does lead to full immersion eventually, because over time it is much likelier to lead to you drowning when culture shock hits you and you have no moral support.
Conversely, there are others who only have expat friends and seem to treat the locals like they are a lesser creature who can only be addressed when it is absolutely necessary in a shop, taxi or work environment.
Please, like a million and one other situations, see the benefit of striving for a good balance in your friends in order to keep your sanity and happiness optimum.
Your goal should be to have at least 2 to 3 local friends who can help you understand their culture better and give you a sense of pride in really fitting in somewhere.
But never underestimate the importance of having fellow expat friends. As an Aussie you can renounce all Aussies abroad, an American all Americans, a Frenchy all French, but the expats they are your family when you are away from your family. The local people won’t understand your sense of loss unless they have been in a similar situation before and besides that they will already have a busy week set up full of all their existing commitments and social life. You will be a mere toy for them, but likely nothing of vital importance. But your fellow expats are feeling the same pain as you missing their families, needing someone to whinge to about cultural differences and hopefully have a therapeutic laugh at yourselves and all your silly trivial woes. They are your lifeline.
And maybe after 6 months you might welcome your own countrymen back into your life again, too, when you start to miss all their annoying little quirks…
The other point I wish to make is how silly it is to regret having more expat friends than local friends. I have found that my friendships with fellow expats have become bonds that I know will last a lifetime and ironically, I’ve discovered that I’ve still learnt more or as much from my expat friends about their cultures then I have when I visited their own homes. For example, I lived with a Colombian girl several years ago and 2 years ago I lived in Peru and I still think I understood more about the cultural subtleties of South Americans from our friendship than I did when I lived over there. Think about it… no friendship or exchange is ever lost…